I know the topic of trust has been written and spoken about alot, but i believe that this is a subject that is too important to people for them to get tired of hearing or reading about. Why does the theme of trust never get old?
Trust is a key element in every type of relationship. But what exactly is trust? Trust is when you have reasonable belief in someone that they will not cause you harm mentally, emotionally or physically, intentionally. How is trust gained? Everybody has a different criteria for what they look for in a person to determine whether they are trustworthy or not. For myself, i look for someone that is consistent in their words and actions and keeps their promises. How long does it take for trust to be attained? The process for achieving trust in someone varies from individual to individual.
Without trust, dangerous situations can arise, either on a physical, emotional and/or mental plane.
Trust in our partnerships will make our life experiences more satisfying.
Sarah
Wednesday, January 16, 2013
Monday, January 7, 2013
BDSM and marriage
A few weeks ago, the topic of marriage within BDSM came up at the end of a discussion that was on another theme. This subject of conjugality and being in a BDSM relationship was only briefly touched upon and i felt it deserved more attention.
Connubiality and the BDSM lifestyle both have some of the same tenants. They both require honor for at least one or more of the partners in the relationship and their must be dedication to the partnership itself. The primary difference in these two relations, is the ownership of another person, even if it's temporary, which is what BDSM is about.
If we look in the past, we will notice that couples who got married, often created patriarchal households. I believe these unions, whether they were consented to or not, paved the way for what the BDSM habit is today.
Due to times that have changed, roles in not only personal affairs, but business ones as well, have also have been transformed.
Although many people still observe the traditions of their culture, i believe that more and more humans are adopting the lifestyle of the twenty-first century.
Could matrimony and BDSM coexist? The only limitations in life are those that individuals place upon themselves.
Sarah
Connubiality and the BDSM lifestyle both have some of the same tenants. They both require honor for at least one or more of the partners in the relationship and their must be dedication to the partnership itself. The primary difference in these two relations, is the ownership of another person, even if it's temporary, which is what BDSM is about.
If we look in the past, we will notice that couples who got married, often created patriarchal households. I believe these unions, whether they were consented to or not, paved the way for what the BDSM habit is today.
Due to times that have changed, roles in not only personal affairs, but business ones as well, have also have been transformed.
Although many people still observe the traditions of their culture, i believe that more and more humans are adopting the lifestyle of the twenty-first century.
Could matrimony and BDSM coexist? The only limitations in life are those that individuals place upon themselves.
Sarah
Wednesday, January 2, 2013
Happy New Year!
On behalf of E/everybody at SOS, W/we would like to wish Y/you and Y/your family and friends, a Happy New Year.
Thursday, December 27, 2012
Are New Year's resolutions necessary to succeed?
2013 is fast approaching and many across the globe are formulating plans to achieve success in the coming year. These maps to achievement that are primarily designed right after each Christmas are called New Year's resolutions. Do New Year's resolutions really set the stage for O/one to attain all the accomplishments they desire in every upcoming year?
If O/one asked the members of society that made New Year's resolutions if they followed through on them, i believe the majority would answer no. Why do so many not stick to the outline they created to procure victory? I believe people have good intentions, but regardless of someone's aims, passion is the key ingredient to all successful sketches.
If O/one has the drive to acquire something, why can't a diagram on how to get it be constructed at any point of time?
Sarah
If O/one asked the members of society that made New Year's resolutions if they followed through on them, i believe the majority would answer no. Why do so many not stick to the outline they created to procure victory? I believe people have good intentions, but regardless of someone's aims, passion is the key ingredient to all successful sketches.
If O/one has the drive to acquire something, why can't a diagram on how to get it be constructed at any point of time?
Sarah
Friday, December 21, 2012
Those who are unintentionally toxic; keep or let go?
Throughout our lives, most of us will and be mentally hurt by others. Those of us who don't mean to cause emotional pain for someone, will probably be able to repair the damage that they did to the relationships that they have with the people they unintentionally distressed.
But what about those that constantly emotionally wound you accidentally; is it safe to keep in contact with individuals like that? My answer to the question that i posed to you A/all, is that i feel that it depends on a person's mental fitness and how strong of a desire Y/you have to maintain the partnership between Y/you and the human beings that evokes emotional affliction.
If Y/you choose or are unable to keep the friendship of Y/you and the person who mentally injured Y/you, it's okay to let it go. Nothing in Y/your life is more precious than Y/your health. Being in good health will enable Y/you to focus on the comradeships that impact your life in a positive way.
Sarah
But what about those that constantly emotionally wound you accidentally; is it safe to keep in contact with individuals like that? My answer to the question that i posed to you A/all, is that i feel that it depends on a person's mental fitness and how strong of a desire Y/you have to maintain the partnership between Y/you and the human beings that evokes emotional affliction.
If Y/you choose or are unable to keep the friendship of Y/you and the person who mentally injured Y/you, it's okay to let it go. Nothing in Y/your life is more precious than Y/your health. Being in good health will enable Y/you to focus on the comradeships that impact your life in a positive way.
Sarah
Friday, December 14, 2012
Strength through struggle
Most people have encountered at least one person who more often than not, made you feel bad about yourself. You end the relationship with the negative human being and experience the emotions of guilt and peace. Why do some endure the feeling of remorse after calling it quits to the partnership between you and the pessimistic individual? When a companionship finishes, regardless of the rationale's for it ending, many folks will blame themselves for the failure of the comradeship.
So, it's been a few weeks since the dissolvement of the amicability between you and the contray mortal. Out of the blue, the antagonistic person contacts you and one of their new goals is to make your life miserable. If you can't think of a reason on why he or she is causing issues for you, the feelings of confusion, anger and worry may consume your mind.
I am going through the above situation and have all of the emotions that one could experience when going through a circumstance of a similar nature. I am trying to lean onto friends for support and keep the predicament in check, like all one should do if they find themselves in a crisis. We might not know what the outcomes will be in situations. But one thing is for certain: Everything always works out in the end.
Sarah
So, it's been a few weeks since the dissolvement of the amicability between you and the contray mortal. Out of the blue, the antagonistic person contacts you and one of their new goals is to make your life miserable. If you can't think of a reason on why he or she is causing issues for you, the feelings of confusion, anger and worry may consume your mind.
I am going through the above situation and have all of the emotions that one could experience when going through a circumstance of a similar nature. I am trying to lean onto friends for support and keep the predicament in check, like all one should do if they find themselves in a crisis. We might not know what the outcomes will be in situations. But one thing is for certain: Everything always works out in the end.
Sarah
Wednesday, December 5, 2012
Holiday Survival for the Unattached
Ah, the surplus of party invitations making our mailboxes their home and the extra large amounts of food, that seem to be offered everywhere we go and replenished before we can say "Happy Holidays". What do these two events mean? But why that the winter celebrations are upon us of course! These are times that are meant to be spent with loved ones, family and friends. For those of us who are not a relationship, we may find the next few weeks to be especially difficult. Even-though we might have kin and buddies, some of us need the type of love that only a significant other can provide, to make the convivialities merry and bright.
What can we as singles do to survive and perhaps even enjoy this supposedly joyful period? If we want to receive love, we must give it. Many communities are struggling financially. You can help those in need by donating your time, money or item's that would benefit from your contribution's. Want to assist others, but not sure who? Lots of newspapers and town websites post bulletins of charities that are looking for personnel and monetary and material alms. I would like to note that there is never a bad time to get involved in a worthy cause, as they need support all throughout the year.
When some isolated human beings are invited to holiday parties, it makes them want to hibernate until the Spring. Festive get-togethers should not be avoided as they are wonderful opportunities to hang out with those you care about and expand your social circle. When you receive your next invitation to a wintertide occasion, ask the host or hostess on how you can aid him or her with the affair. By offering to abet in the shindig, you have some control over it, which in turn, makes it more fun for you.
What can we as singles do to survive and perhaps even enjoy this supposedly joyful period? If we want to receive love, we must give it. Many communities are struggling financially. You can help those in need by donating your time, money or item's that would benefit from your contribution's. Want to assist others, but not sure who? Lots of newspapers and town websites post bulletins of charities that are looking for personnel and monetary and material alms. I would like to note that there is never a bad time to get involved in a worthy cause, as they need support all throughout the year.
When some isolated human beings are invited to holiday parties, it makes them want to hibernate until the Spring. Festive get-togethers should not be avoided as they are wonderful opportunities to hang out with those you care about and expand your social circle. When you receive your next invitation to a wintertide occasion, ask the host or hostess on how you can aid him or her with the affair. By offering to abet in the shindig, you have some control over it, which in turn, makes it more fun for you.
However you choose to observe the wintertime jubilees, i hope they are in ways that are special to you.
Sarah
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