Sunday, May 25, 2014

Thoughts on protection

I am pretty sure that i have written about the protection in the past, but i wanted to share more thoughts on this subject.

It's always been my belief that their are I/individuals W/who can't defend T/themselves. Although i really don't have much use of my limbs and am bounded to a ventilator, i still wanted to be a voice for T/those W/who found T/themselves in situations that were dangerous in nature and precipitated by another P/person.

While in pursuit of earning a degree in Criminal Justice, in hopes of changing the World, i was ignoring someone that was close to me, who was in the very situation that i wanted to protect P/people from. Y/you see, my best friend at the time, had a on again and off again Master Who degraded her and was in short, a predator. After i learned the tools to help I/individuals like my friend, the opportunity to help her, came too late. Three months after i graduated college, my friend passed away. Although my friend had health problems and other issues, it is believed by a few that my friend took her own life, due to the emotional trauma her ex Master caused her. After her passing, i swore to myself that i would never become owned to a predator. Little did i know that i would have to eat my words.

At the age of twenty-five, i met a man Who would be the first to capture my heart. Unfortunately, He turned out to be a mirror image of my deceased friend's ex Dominant. My ex Master told me that i was not worldly and made me feel that i was worthless as a person and as a submissive. After fourteen months of being with my ex Dominant, i left Him. Although it's been almost two years since i escaped my ex Dominant's clutches, i am still left with the humiliation and feeling of failure of myself of getting into a situation like that. The only things that are consolations for me, is that i now am better able to assist P/people in situations like these, the discovery of the love i have for the polyamory lifestyle and that i relearned that i can protect myself.

I urge E/everybody that are in similar situations to take measures to protect Y/yourself or seek help for those occasions that are beyond Y/you. Always remember that a relationship, regardless of its lifestyle basis, is to enhance the P/person that Y/you already are, not take away.


Saturday, May 17, 2014

Equality in polyamory

I have a simple question for E/everybody that are in poly relationships. Can a Dominant or switch successfully give all of Their submissives an equal amount of time and love? I know the answer will depend on how large a family is, but i am asking in a general manner.


Thursday, May 8, 2014

Are Dominants responsible for caring for a submissive who's disabled?

Life can throw U/us M/many curveballs. They say that W/we will never be given something that W/we can't handle. But do W/we sometimes take responsibility for things that W/we shouldn't? For example, what if a Dominant falls in love with a submissive who is or becomes severely disabled, should the Dominant be that girl or boy's primary caregiver? And what happens if a Dominant has more than one submissive? Should His or Her abled bodied submissives help care for their disabled chain sister or brother?

I await Y/your responses.


Sunday, April 20, 2014

Monday, March 10, 2014

Being absorbed into the vanilla world

Wwe A/all have responsibilities and activities that W/we do that outside the D/s and M/s lifestyles. But what happens when Y/you are enjoying the pastimes and commitments that are in the vanilla part of Y/your life, than the ones in Y/your D/s or M/s one?

For example, as of late. i have been doing alot of vanilla activities. I haven't had much time to attend many D/s or M/s events. As each day passes, i feel less of a desire to participate in D/s or M/s affairs.

What does E/everybody think about this?

Saturday, December 28, 2013

No service needed?

I recently read a section of a website that was like a "Dear Abby" piece. Someone asked if she could still be considered a submissive if she wasn't into submissive. The person who answered her said that service doesn't have to be apart of a D/s or M/s dynamic.

What do Y/you A/all think?


Monday, September 16, 2013


This past weekend, I got introduced to the idea that scenes doesn't have to include sex. What does E/everybody think about this?