Monday, January 28, 2013

Dominant couples and submissive pairings

Dominant Duos and submissive unions have fascinated me for awhile. How do these relationships work? Some individuals do tip towards either the Dominant or submissive spectrum, but i don't believe that anybody is Dominant or submissive all the time. Every situation in life brings out different traits in people. I think the way the Dominant partnerships and submissive comradeships work is that they are just like all other alliances; everybody gets their needs met as their needs have been enfolded in the discussions that take place in the negotiation phase of their relationship.


Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Illness and BDSM

Many countries across the globe are suffering from a flu epidemic. What happens if a Master or Mistress falls ill and can no longer care for the property's they may have? What if a submissive or slave, who might have a Dominant or Domme, gets sick and becomes unable to serve their owner in the same capacity as they once did?

I believe all of these above questions should be answered when peoples BDSM dynamic's looks like they have the potential to grow into lifetime relationship's.


Wednesday, January 16, 2013


I know the topic of trust has been written and spoken about alot, but i believe that this is a subject that is too important to people for them to get tired of hearing or reading about. Why does the theme of trust never get old?
Trust is a key element in every type of relationship. But what exactly is trust? Trust is when you have reasonable belief in someone that they will not cause you harm mentally, emotionally or physically, intentionally. How is trust gained? Everybody has a different criteria for what they look for in a person to determine whether they are trustworthy or not. For myself, i look for someone that is consistent in their words and actions and keeps their promises. How long does it take for trust to be attained? The process for achieving trust in someone varies from individual to individual.

Without trust, dangerous situations can arise, either on a physical, emotional and/or mental plane.

Trust in our partnerships will make our life experiences more satisfying.


Monday, January 7, 2013

BDSM and marriage

A few weeks ago, the topic of marriage within BDSM came up at the end of a discussion that was on another theme. This subject of conjugality and being in a BDSM relationship was only briefly touched upon and i felt it deserved more attention.

Connubiality and the BDSM lifestyle both have some of the same tenants. They both require honor for at least one or more of the partners in the relationship and their must be dedication to the partnership itself. The primary difference in these two relations, is the ownership of another person, even if it's temporary, which is what BDSM is about.

If we look in the past, we will notice that couples who got married, often created patriarchal households. I believe these unions, whether they were consented to or not, paved the way for what the BDSM habit is today.

Due to times that have changed, roles in not only personal affairs, but business ones as well, have also have been transformed.

Although many people still observe the traditions of their culture, i believe that more and more humans are adopting the lifestyle of the twenty-first century.

Could matrimony and BDSM coexist? The only limitations in life are those that individuals place upon themselves.


Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Happy New Year!

On behalf of E/everybody at SOS, W/we would like to wish Y/you and Y/your family and friends, a Happy New Year.