D/s in the modern world

Back when there were no computers or cell phones and guys were the primary bread winners, Dominant and submissive relationships were the norm and easy to maintain. We now live in a time where women have the capacity to out-earn men in many professions, coupled with the availability of internet that can be found in several different types of electronics.

It's currently the twenty-first century and we have the ability to choose our path, without worrying that our gender, orientation, creed and/or ethnicity will block it. How does one enter a D/s relationship in a age where equality is the trend? First, you should research ANY lifestyle at length before jumping in. Read as many documents, talk with as large of a population and attend all the classes, if any are available, that you can about your desired avenue, so you know exactly what you're getting into. Second, once you have a chosen road, build a support system of knowledgeable, trustworthy people that are in the lifestyle that you have selected. On the same token, don't ignore the folks that have been in your life for awhile, especially family.  For those that don't agree with your passage, if they truly care for you, they will accept it in time. Persons who have friends that are youthful  and/or have lots of younger members in their kin, they may have a particularly tough time in accepting your route, as society now dictates that we are all equal. Good communication and patience are often the keys in overcoming obstacles and fostering tolerance. Third, with the advancement of technology, workloads in jobs are increasing at a rapid rate. Stress from your occupation, plus all of the commitments in your journey, may have you wondering, how does one have the opportunity to explore a ethnology properly, when one has so many things on their plate? One word: Prioritize! If you you really want something, you'll do whatever is necessary to make it happen. I know that sounds cliche, but it's true. I am working on getting another college degree and i volunteer and work in Second Life, all while actively learning about D/s. If i can do it, so can you. Lastly, as with many things in life, maintenance is critical in keeping yourself and relationships healthy. Taking proper care of yourself and your relations with others is the secret ingredient in keeping everything vital.



Sarah