Home At Last!

Well folks Master has sent out the posting on His first day with sissy. i have had the absolute joy of the last two days getting to know her in real life...and guess what? She is exactly the same as she is in SL. So i really didn't have to get to know her. i have known her all along. Wanna know somthin' else? she is every bit as much an angel as she is in pixel form too. And unlike at the beginning of the last two years, this time it really did fall out of the box perfect! But let me get to the whole thing from the start!

First, apparently there were a lot of words tossed around when folks found out i had spent the first night at a hotel in town so Master and sis could have some time together. People were telling Master and sis (and leaving me IMs too) words like "amazing" and "inspiration". I have to admit...i don't feel that way. I don't feel heroic or special. All i did is what i felt was right. Master and i have lived together for nearly three years now. And when i arrived it was just U/us. W/we have had a very long time to form that special bond. i fully believed that sis and Master deserved at least one night! One night where there was no weirdness, no awkwardness. Sis could settle into her home, Master could cuddle His long lost girl, and when i got home it would fresh and rested. Not out of the sweat shop. Sis would have had a chance to get over the flight and good nights sleep. Time for the serious one on one face to face with Master you really only CAN do when you are face to face.

And so Master picked me up the next day at the hotel and brought me home to my sis. It was the most wonderful moment. I saw her come out of the hall and that brief look of uncertainty. Her wide, dark eyes held that first breath of fear. And that is all i really remember for a moment because just that look alone and i burst into tears. She is beyond beautiful and the inner light you feel when you talk to her online...its all around her. i cried and gave my sis the hug i had been saving for so long. i told her "welcome home sissy! i missed you!". And she answered "I really am home". That is how it feels too. Like W/we have all lived here all along, just separate for a while.

In class i tell people the poly dynamic does not just fall out of the box perfect. it takes years of communication and time to build that bond of trust. You have to go through the hoops, the balls of fire, miscommunication, insecurity, self doubt, personal clashes, all with your heart on your sleeve and the HONEST desire to make it work. Not just one in the dynamic, but ALL in the dynamic. It is hard work. But there is a huge bonus if you  plan on eventually becoming an RL poly. The work is all done. Once the physical part of the move was done, W/we all realized W/we have been together all along. Sissy fell out of her moving box and the whole puzzle was completed.

Master, sis and i have spent the last couple of days gabbing, shopping, gabbing, cooking, gabbing, spending time with the kids, shopping again, gabbing....you get the idea. It really does feel exactly the same as when W/we are sitting in SL in family time. Only now, family time is any time W/we are under the same roof. Not just when W/we all have time to log in. The house feels full now. Light, happy, alive and full. It is not a house in waiting. It truly is a home.

Well, i just wanted to send out this little blurb and let E/everyone know all is going so amazing. And now i am going to post this so i can get back to my family!!

Our first 24 hours.....

For the past few weeks I have been bombarded by all of my dear friends regarding this RL transition. It is wonderful to know that so many people are genuinely interested in our happiness as a real life polyamorous family. Just goes to show you the power of community as we can lean on each other!

When I collared Alisha 2.5 years ago, the idea of becoming a poly family BEYOND second life was not part of my plan. However, as our relationship grew stronger is became apparent that this dynamic was taking a path of its own. Ironically it was Sarrah that approached me and said
 " Master, Alisha is going to be a permanent part of our family! I can feel it!"
It never ceases to amaze me how the girls see things well before I do in certain areas. Sarrah was indeed correct in her feelings as Alisha is finally with me in real life as well.

You would think that after years of building a relationship as deep and complex as D/s it would take away the anxieties of change. I am here to tell you that regardless of how much you think you are ready, the nerves still tend to prevail....smiles

So......yesterday her plane was due to arrive at 10:08 am. I cannot tell you what an amazing feeling it was to know that I was just hours away from wrapping my arms around my sweet girl. Just prior to leaving my house for the airport, I went online to check her flight status. Low and behold, the pilot must have caught a nice tail wind as the arrival time was 40 minutes AHEAD of schedule. Fortunately the airport is a mere 15 minute drive so I arrived just as Alisha's plane arrived at the gate. She called me to let me know she landed early and was surprised to find out that I was waiting eagerly in baggage claim. In fact I was watching her come down the escalator. This surprised Alisha as she was planning on taking advantage of early arrival to use the rest room for some last minute primping. ( Apparently this is important to a submissive meeting her Master for the first time....shrugs)

I walked up to her and gave her the biggest hug you can imagine. I whispered in her ear " You're home now sweetie" The initial awkwardness faded quickly as it felt as if she had been with me her entire life. Even when we went to baggage claim to retrieve her suitcase...I stood there patiently as Alisha said:
 " There's my bag....no, that's not it....Oh there it is!.....errrr nope not that one....Oh I see it now!....oops....mine has a green ribbon on it"
Now even though the extra stretching to grab a bag that was not hers was probably good for me, the owners of the bags did not seem to care as they grumbled " That's MY bag!"...This of course eventually resulted in me glaring evilly at Alisha...See? We never missed a beat!

We finally arrived home and I gave her the dime tour. She seemed very pleased with the house and felt comfortable right away. As she settled in and unpacked the anxiety slipped away and the emotions of the wonderful reality of it all finally took over. We sat and talked for awhile, then we decided to use our excitement to log on to SL and visit with some friends to let them know she arrived safely. I then had to leave and pick up Sarrah at work and bring her to her hotel as she graciously offered to stay in town so Alisha and I could have our time alone. This act of compersion and love from Sarrah reaffirms what an amazing woman she is, and reminds me once again how lucky I am to have her.

Alisha and I spent the entire evening enjoying each other's company. We talked, and talked....We cuddled and watched a movie and even took a cat nap since we were exhausted. We enjoyed our first meal together. I cannot tell you how incredible it is to finally make a reality of the powerful dynamic we have built as a family. I even decided that it was important for us to log in to SL once again and attend Miss Kaddan and Tahlia's discussion. Why? Because I feel that the best way to transition is to use the tools that got us there in the first place. This helped the flow continue and provided a sense of security.

Well here it is...The morning after and I am on my way into town to pick Sarrah up from the hotel. Today is an important day as the girls will meet for the first time in RL. We plan on using this day to talk as a family and clearly spell out our goals and plans for the next few weeks and months. I also plan on giving the girls the space they need to get to know each other on this new level. There will be more to come so stay tuned!

Once again...To all of our dear friends....Thank you all for your support and for being there when we needed you. Our hopes are that we can use this experience to assist others if they decide to make this transition as we did.

Mik

Serving while unowned

In a previous post, i explained the importance of self growth and completing the grieving process, when single. But what about while or after doing one or both of these things, your desires to serve another or others become overwhelming and you're without a Dominant or Domme? Regardless of your relationship status, you can fulfill your needs. If you crave to provide service to someone or to a few people, perhaps donate your time to your favorite charity, a volunteer program, a school, or a religious establishment. All of these opportunities not only quell the yearning to serve, but society also benefits from your service.




Sarah

Staying sane when rejection strikes

Picture it: You're in a club, some of your all-time favorite songs are being played and the establishment is filled to its capacity with attractive men and women. You pick one man or woman from the crowd and strike up a conversation with them. You discover that this person has a pleasant personality in addition to their nice appearance. You become slightly excited as you find yourself enjoying the company of this individual and develop a hunger in wanting to get to know H/him or H/her better. But, oh no! H/he or S/she rejects you, in some shape or form. If you have been on the lookout for a Dominant or submissive or slave for awhile, rejection can be devastating; regardless of the reasons from the ones that rejects us.

What we must remember is that we are going to be turned down by some people in every aspect of our lives. But we can't let renunciation or the fear of it, stop us from pursing our dreams. While some aspirations are easier to achieve than others, there are still things that we can do, to improve our chances of completing our goals. If your dream is to find a submissive or slave or Dominant, one idea is to recall as many as possible the negative comments that you have received and examine them to see if there is/are area's in your life that needs betterment.

Regardless of outcomes, be grateful for the things that you do have and keep an open heart and mind for the positive items that may come your way.



Sarah

The Newly Single

As many of us know, the period between relationships can be boring, but it can also be a time of enrichment. Those who choose to improve themselves and take part in opportunities that leads to emotional growth during this/these lull's, can give more to their next partner and partnership.

Taking the steps to help yourself right after a relationship ends, is not a good idea. People must go through the grieving process in order to be ready to transform themselves for the better and for their next partnership. What is the grieving process? The grieving process is a plan to accept that a traumatic event has taken place. What are the phases that one waxes through during the grieving process? The emotions that one will experience when proceeding through the grieving process are: Denial, anger, bargaining and acceptance.

After completing the grieving process, what areas in your life do you feel need improving? Dom/mes, what sections in a submissive's journey do you feel  requires healthy development in? Besides getting through the grieving process and making our lives finer from a psychological anschauung, what other things can we do during singlehood, so that we can continue to stay busy and not make poor choices due to boredom?






Sarah

D/s in the modern world

Back when there were no computers or cell phones and guys were the primary bread winners, Dominant and submissive relationships were the norm and easy to maintain. We now live in a time where women have the capacity to out-earn men in many professions, coupled with the availability of internet that can be found in several different types of electronics.

It's currently the twenty-first century and we have the ability to choose our path, without worrying that our gender, orientation, creed and/or ethnicity will block it. How does one enter a D/s relationship in a age where equality is the trend? First, you should research ANY lifestyle at length before jumping in. Read as many documents, talk with as large of a population and attend all the classes, if any are available, that you can about your desired avenue, so you know exactly what you're getting into. Second, once you have a chosen road, build a support system of knowledgeable, trustworthy people that are in the lifestyle that you have selected. On the same token, don't ignore the folks that have been in your life for awhile, especially family.  For those that don't agree with your passage, if they truly care for you, they will accept it in time. Persons who have friends that are youthful  and/or have lots of younger members in their kin, they may have a particularly tough time in accepting your route, as society now dictates that we are all equal. Good communication and patience are often the keys in overcoming obstacles and fostering tolerance. Third, with the advancement of technology, workloads in jobs are increasing at a rapid rate. Stress from your occupation, plus all of the commitments in your journey, may have you wondering, how does one have the opportunity to explore a ethnology properly, when one has so many things on their plate? One word: Prioritize! If you you really want something, you'll do whatever is necessary to make it happen. I know that sounds cliche, but it's true. I am working on getting another college degree and i volunteer and work in Second Life, all while actively learning about D/s. If i can do it, so can you. Lastly, as with many things in life, maintenance is critical in keeping yourself and relationships healthy. Taking proper care of yourself and your relations with others is the secret ingredient in keeping everything vital.



Sarah

Why Are We Here???

When you walk into a room or a street or someones house, sometimes you can have this feeling of.."Something brought me here and I don't understand it." There are many times this may happen to me on an emotional side.

I have decided to share some of my own thoughts with you, and show you a little bit of myself.

I use to a lot stand somewhere and say.. "What am i doing here?" I would ask myself why I am there, but it's not till a later time i realize exactly why I was there. It is amazing how life can offer us so much and mother nature is beautiful and then you realize, YOU have so much to offer yourself.

It was a weir time for me to figure this out. I was under a lot of stress, emotionally and physically, mentally even. When I am under stress I tend to think more deeply about things - which could be the way we all think. I tend to dissect things naturally, but slower.

We all talk about the cookie cutter Sub, we all talk about the subs, submitting only on command, we talk about the subs who say.."Me me me". I was her at one time.

I remember Imíng someone in Secondlife, I didn't know why I was in this persons IM.. But now I see exactly why.

I used to submit on command. I was the one with the thoughts of... "Mr Dommy Dom, I will submit when I want to. I would get  cold negative reactions, and then I would start thinking that I was not good enough. I didn't see the behavior, I didn't see the way I was acting. I would act out to get attention, all because I did not feel worthy enough.

Growing up I had a tough situation, it forced me to grow up, but it also forced me to be quiet. Don't show your emotions, because you would only be punished for it, and really.. Who wants to hear some silly little girl's opinion. That's the way my mind worked.

When i found my submission, or just felt it a little I was so excited of the fact that someone was going to take care of me for once. That there helped me down the track of the cookie cutter attitude. The fingers started pointing...."Well hey.. I have submitted to you, now you owe me everything in return. Everything being.. My expectations. It through me in very scary situations.

I have a few good friends who now will tell me straight. They help me see so many different angles and it really helps.

I use to feel empty while in a relationship. I was always searching for that validation to make me feel better. But I wanted them to be proud of me, but no matter what they gave, it was not reaching my expectation. I was very much a "fix me fix me"girl.

About a year ago, I remember standing out the front of Sos doors and feeling this warmth, feeling this pleasure, this switch just turning on. At first I thought i was going to be ill, because that hot rush only came if i was ill. Then I realized exactly what it was.. My very own submission.

That moment on i had so many positive people in my life that I was learning off. I was in that exciting time......"I feel it, I can feel my submission!!!!!!!" Then the race for the peak of the mountain started.
I was learning so much about myself that I didn't want it to stop, so I was like racing to the top of every peak.

Well did I learn a great lesson there. I was missing out on all the little things. I wasn't stopping to smell the roses, I just wanted the car to keep going with no gas..."Get me there, get me there". I started to see that the little thing I was learning and growing from were the most beautiful, spiritual things about myself. I started to ask if we can pull over for a break. I wanted to smell the roses and when I realized how beneficial that was for me.... Now it's like a motivator to slow down.

The meaning of this blog is.... "We may not thing we are exactly where we need to be at times, but I could nearly say... You are exactly where you are meant to be".

We do like to rush, but take that time, relax. There are people who come in to our lives, and at the time it may be a negative feeling, but then, after a few months, there is always... yes always something they have given us, even if they do not know... So why are we here??... Because I am on a life journey with myself, so just breathe it in.

Thank you.
Tahlia Snoodle